Self confidence has always been a problem for me and i think it always will be.
I wanted to write about this issue because I think it’s so important and it can be so debilitating at times so if we can talk about it more, we can help each other become more self confident.
I wasn’t badly bullied but needless to say, the bullies knocked my confidence even more.
When I was a teenager my mom thought it would good for me to join a drama group. She could see my nerves were holding me back and stopping me doing things I really wanted to do such as, drama and dance.
When I joined I found it so hard at first to participate and get involved. But slowly, as I got to know the group, I found it more comfortable and was able to join in. I remember the first show I was part of. I only had a small part but I was seriously contemplating running from the building via the nearest exit. I didn’t though. I forced myself to go on and i did my bit and absolutely loved it. The feeling of achievement after was immense.
Self confidence is so important. You need to have confidence in yourself to be successful and happy. I never thought when I was younger I would get married. Who would want me? I am married now to a wonderful man who supports and encourages me everyday.
I am the only female Manager at my company and manage a team of 25 people and most of them are men. I never thought I would have the confidence to do that so I am proud of myself. I know I am never going to be super confident but each day I work at it a bit more and keep pushing myself to do things that take me out of my comfort zone. Presentations at work, meeting new people, blogging 😀.
To help with my self confidence I use fashion and make up. It really helps. If I think I look good, I feel good and have more confidence.
Surround yourself with positive, happy people this really helps and also, compliment. A compliment to someone with a lack of self confidence, no matter how small, means so much.
I would love to hear your thoughts on this issue so please comment below.
Thanks for reading
Handbag Girl xxxx